Foods for Flirting 'n Seduction

Looking for ways to spice up your sex life? They may already be in your kitchen!

Researchers say the smell, taste, and even appearance of certain foods can act as potent aphrodisiacs that not only get you in the mood for love, but also may even make you a better flirt and lover. Once you know what these foods are, you can take complete advantage of them!

"Different foods have different nutrients and substances that affect the body physiologically in different ways, that's why different foods work for different stages," says clinical sexologist Ava Cadell, PhD. "Some foods lower inhibitions, some get the blood flowing directly to the genitalia, and some foods release happy hormones."

For Flirting
Why do you need these foods? Well when looking for a possible partner, it's you may like to choose foods that secrete chemicals and hormones that make you happy in order to increase self-confidence, lower inhibitions, and make you a better flirt.

These foods include Chili peppers, which are spicy foods get the heart pumping and induce sweating. You can also go for the good ol’ Bananas. They contain chemicals that have a mood-lifting effect on the brain and raise self-confidence. Another recommended food is Carrots. Their phallic appearance and high-fiber content may induce sexual desire.

For Seduction
Now for stage two, that is seduction. Aphrodisiacs can help trigger the release of sex hormones, such as testosterone, provide a quick energy boost, and increase blood flow to the genitals to get the body "in the mood" for love.

It's now essential to create a visual stimulation with foods that look like the genitalia, such as oysters, fresh figs, or carrots. Also, certain foods release hormones, like testosterone in women that makes them more sexually aggressive and adventurous. You can also experiment with Shrimp. High in iodine, shrimp and other types of seafood are vital to the thyroid gland, which is vital for energy. Try the age old Chocolate which provides a jolt of caffeine. Ginger reportedly increases blood flow to the genitals in both men and women. Green Olives are believed to make men more virile, and black olives ones increase women's sex drive. Tomatoes, known as "love apples" have a reputation as a sexual stimulant and Apples, since Adam and Eve, has been synonymous with temptation.

Asparagus, which is a sexy, long, phallic-looking food, is rich in potassium, phosphorus, calcium, and vitamin E that can aid in hormone production and raising energy levels.

Places for Sex (Indoor) . . .

Have you gone into a slumber, making love to your lover in the same old place, the bed in your bedroom? I mean, you are doing everything that you usually do- caress, kiss, fondle. But things are just not getting hot and steamy. Could be the reason be that it’s the same old BORING place ?

Sex has got dull, right? Well, don’t get into a depression. There is a way out. No, you don’t have to find another partner or look for an exciting sex toy. One of the easiest ways to add spice to your love life is to change the place where you make love.

There are so many positions for sex that you can try at various locations. Don’t believe me, well OK, then try to push your partner on to the floor the next time you are making (boring) love. This will surprise him/her and that in itself may add the zing to keep you swinging for sometime. Pounce when he/she least expects it!

You see how easy that was? Now we're making love on the floor. (If you're too excited to continue reading, take a breather and come back later. It only gets more intense from here on out.)

Now, there are a few things that you need to know here. You have to be extra careful to avoid rug-burn. Which means that the skin of your back is likely to get grazed when you are making some crazy love on the floor. If you are on the bare floor, you have to watch out against impact injuries. Basically, for sex which is not performed on the bed, you have to get used to keeping some clothes on, else it could turn from being exciting to excruciating.

The next challenge is to shift rooms. Move from your bedroom into your drawing room. This is exciting yet safe as you can use the comfort of the couch. Many of the positions that you can practice here are similar to the ones you practice on your bed. While in the living room, you should also try the chairs to learn how to make love while one of you is sitting up. Try an easy chair to begin with.

Once you are done with the Drawing room, move on to the Kitchen to learn to make love against the refrigerator, the oven, and the sink. The sink is the most difficult in this room of unusual sexual positions but before you try this, do check the strength of your sink.

Once you are ‘done’ with the kitchen sink, move on to the bathroom sink. Incidentally, its fun to turn on the sink and get a little wet. Some couples also like to make love on the toilet, and here is where the sitting positions that you learned in the living room are useful.

And its time for sex under the sensuous shower. Most couples will only fondle, soap, and wash each other in the shower, moving onto other rooms for the final union. Actually, sex in the shower involves standing and a wet floor. While you can opt for the shower floor, you can also lean against a wall to facilitate penetration.

With this, you’ve had sex in every room of the house and are ready to take on the outdoors. More on that in the next article.

Kamasutra and Spirituality

Is Sex your path to spirituality? Celibacy for spirituality was the last millennium's mantra. New age gurus are re looking at the sexual experience and linking it to the spiritual realm. Let's look at what their latest findings are...

Deepak Chopra, the world's favourite new age guru, is coming out with a book which he promises, will be a 'contemporary version of the Kama Sutra.' The Kama Sutra, as every self-respecting Indian knows, is the text that sees pleasure, or Kama, as one of the four goals of life, the other three being, Dharma, Arth and Moksha.

ORGASM: A mini-SAMADHI
Chopra's delving into this topic has once again opened the subject of the connection between sex and spirituality. It reminds us of Osho, who catapulted the sex vs. spirituality controversy centre stage with his book From Sex To Super Consciousness. He propounded the view that orgasm is a mini and temporary Samadhi since it can transport you to a state of pure rapture. The mind becomes devoid of thought. Our egocentric view of life disappears and we step outside of time into the timeless. This line of thinking was so revolutionary that at that time it attracted a lot of flak.

Since then, however, this idea has been explored by thinkers and philosophers, spiritual masters and sex gurus.Margot Anand, who teaches Sky Dancing Tantra, a system that combines elements of Tantra and modern psychology, coined the term 'High Sex', defined thus: “High Sex takes the experience of orgasm to a dimension in which the genital orgasm is only the beginning. It inspires you to explore the full capacity of orgasm. Culminating in ecstatic body-to-body and soul-to-soul communion, it is an experience to the whole body, the whole being.”

SEX—POSITIVE VIEW
A widely held view seems to be that sex, long seen as the enemy of the sprit, is actually its ally. To become spiritually whole, we must liberate our sexuality from the thrall of guilt, shame and repression and allow it to find full expression as a healthy, natural and even sacred part of life.

Vikas Malkani, an Indian spiritual guide and author, is reported to have said: “Making love can become a giving, expressing, selfless act, which is a form of prayer itself. Through the body, the hearts are touched; the emotions opened and desires expressed, fears released, security given and souls merged. Through the act of physical sharing, God is remembered and revered. Making love goes from the physical level to the emotional and finally to spiritual level where it becomes a prayer to the divine.”

Deepak Chopra too, believes that “Sexual desire is sacred and chaste. The suppression of sexual energy is false, ugly and unchaste. Sexual energy is sacred energy but meaningful sex has to be value based.” Not just that but, says Chopra, “Sex is many peoples' only experience of meditation.” The belief is gaining such popularity that the spiritual practice of celibacy, considered, for the millennia, crucial for spiritual enlightenment by Christians, Buddhists and Hindus, is up for debate. Will Chopra's contemporary version of Kama Sutra be able to convince the non-believers that “once we have restored the sexual experience to the realm of the sacred, our world will be chaste and divine, holy and healed”?

We'll just have to wait and see!!

Plan an Aphrodisiac Date ??

Ah, the art of romance! Sweet, subtle tokens of affection- a glance, a touch a kiss. If you have tried all the ‘usual’ ideas for romance, spend a little time here getting some extra ideas for your next romantic rendezvous. Enjoying and getting to know one another go hand-in-hand. Romance can be cultivated through thoughts, words, and deeds. Preparing a night of romance can also include a bit of fun and a bit of role-playing. But to get the engine of romance revving, why not prepare one of these drinks and get going? Drink for Getting into the Mood Vanilla Aphrodisiac Smoothie 1 cup Milk 15 Whole Cloves 15 Cardamom pods 2 Cinnamon sticks 1 Vanilla pod, split 1 cup Vanilla frozen Yogurt Honey to taste Place milk, cloves, cardamom, and cinnamon in a saucepan. Scrape in vanilla seeds from pod. Heat milk but do not boil. Remove from heat and allow it to cool, then refrigerate until chilled. Strain milk into a blender goblet and discard spices. Add frozen yogurt and honey to taste. Blend until smooth and frothy. Delicious! Kama Sutra Shake 1 tbsp clarified Butter (heat the butter till it froths and skim with a muslin filter) 1 tsp Honey 1 tsp Liquorice powder 150 ml Milk 150 ml centrifuged Fennel juice Wash and dry the fennel. Centrifuge to obtain 150 ml of liquid. Pour into the blender with the other ingredients and process. 20 Questions to take you Places… While dinner is cooking, pour two glasses of aphrodisiac beverage, put on some relaxing music and play ‘20 questions.’ Dare to ask! You may just find out something you didn't know about your mate. Here are some questions to get you started. Don't be afraid to think of some, more intimate ones of your own as well. If you could be any age for just one day what age would you be? Would you ever go skinny-dipping? Do you believe in love at first sight? What kind of clothing do you feel most sexy in? What is your favourite song? If you could have lunch with anyone past or present who would it be? Who is your hero? Do you like scary films? What holiday do you really look forward to each year? What are two most erogenous parts of your body? Have you ever watched an X movie? Have you ever had a full body massage? If someone dared you would you be a stripper for one night? What is the most outrageous place you have ever made love? What are your three most important goals to achieve this year? Besides your parents who knows you best? What one person has helped you change for the better? Have you ever played Strip Poker? Have you ever read the Kama Sutra? Would you ever run for a public office Food for Love No ‘promising’ relationship was ever enhanced by a plain bowl of soup or a sandwich. Prepare a special dinner with dishes that will create an atmosphere that promotes romance, passion, and communion. Forget the traditional aphrodisiacs such as frog saliva, mandrakes, powdered rhinoceros’ horns, or the liquorice teas used in the days of old. Turn, instead, to delicious recipes from around the world, laden with flavours, enticing aromas and miraculous ingredients with which to tempt your love. In no time at all you’ll be on your way to something provocatively appetizing. On your menu of seduction, add the following dishes. Soupe à l’oignon gratineé — Onion soup 4 sliced Onions 3 tbsps Butter 2 tbsps Flour 500 ml Stock 6 slices country bread toasted in the oven 100 gms grated Gruyère Brown the onion rings in the butter in a non-stick pan. Keep the heat low and stir often so they do not stick. When they start colouring add the flour and stir for a minute, then add the stock. Cook for 25 minutes. Butter a small oven dish and line the bottom with 2 slices of toast. Pour some stock on top and a grating of Gruyère cheese and repeat three times adding butter to the last layer. Grill until a fine golden crust forms on the top. Lovers Salad — Insalata Degli Innamorati 1 Avocado 300 gms shelled, boiled Shrimp, fresh or frozen 2 Celery hearts diced 4 Walnuts, shelled Mayonnaise Tomato ketchup Cream Halve the skin, remove the pit stone and dice the pulp of the avocado into small pieces. Drop the shrimp into boiling water for 30 seconds and cool. Put the avocado in a bowl with the shrimp, the celery, and the chopped walnuts. Dress with a pink sauce obtained by mixing 4 tbsp. of lemon mayonnaise with one tbsp each of ketchup and cream. Fill the avocado halves with the mixture and refrigerate until ready to serve. Clean Up Who said getting clean isn't fun? Start by acquiring some lightly scented candles. Also pick up your favourite brand of bubble bath! Then splurge on a rich creamy shampoo and conditioner! After the food, drinks and game, your lover will probably be full of passion. Add on to the flames by sprinkling rose petals from the bedroom door to the bathtub. After dinner, suggest that you go for a "romantic bath". After you lead your lover to the bath tub, gently light the candles that you have strategically arranged around the bathroom area. (NEVER LEAVE CANDLES UNATTENDED!) We leave the rest to your imagination. Now plan your date and enjoy! Aphrodisiac Facts Almonds Almonds were regarded as fertility symbols throughout antiquity. Nuts in general are held to have fertility powers. The aroma of almond supposedly arouses passion in females. Alexander Dumas dined on almond soup every night before meeting his mistress, and Samson wooed Delilah with them. Avocado Aside from their voluptuous, feminine shape, avocados have also been associated with male sexuality. The Aztecs called the avocado tree "Ahuacuatl," or "testicle tree." The ancients thought the fruit hanging in pairs on the tree resembled the male's testicles. The Spanish, in fact, found avocados so obscenely sexy, that Catholic priests forbade them to their parishioners. Oysters These succulent mollusks are the classic aphrodisiac. And, there's research to support it: raw oysters are very high in zinc, which raises sperm and testosterone production, thus increasing libido. Oysters are also a source of dopamine. Casanova is said to have eaten 50 raw oysters every day

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Once you’ve experimented with the sex in various exiting places in your home, it’s time to move out to experiment.

Sex in the Car
One of the most popular places to have sex outside the four walls is the car. As a kid in high school, you may have had this experience already, but it’s a good way to put some zing into your love life even at a later stage.

Most prefer the backseat to the front. Sex in a car is supposed to be restricted and tricky. So the car that you choose is naturally important. The proposal is to find a car sufficiently big, but not too big. SUV’s will not do because they are too comfortable, a lot like a couch.

Now, where to park the car? You want to find a spot that's private, but not too private. Sex in a car is exhilarating because you are in public and someone might see. You do have the option of driving out to a nearby forest where you are visible to no body but that’s no fun, is it? It’s better to find a place like a park or a parking area where cars are passing through. At night no one can really see what's going on while whizzing past in a car. One thing you must be careful about is to watch out for the police who are on the prowl. A good idea is to keep your clothes on if you don’t want to be arrested for indecent exposure. Another skill you need to develop while having car sex is to ‘up and move’ the moment anyone comes close. So you have to make sure that your antenna is up for an unexpected presence.

Another advantage of car sex is that while cruising around in a car is that if you come across a lonely spot, quickly jump out and ‘do it’!

Public Loos
Imagine this: You and your partner go to a hi-fly restaurant and, halfway through dinner, maybe just after a couple of glasses of wine and starters, quickly go to the restroom and have it off! Five star hotels or upmarket restaurants usually have really nice toilets and you can do it either standing up or even on the commode!

It's generally safer for women to enter men's rooms. Just make sure you’re your toilet is locked…..unless, of course, you want your neighbour to take a dekko!

Museums and Libraries
Museums and libraries, especially on hot summer afternoons are pretty deserted. Check out a time when the librarian is likely to be dozing, and then choose a shelf where your favourite author’s works are kept. You’ll probably get some intellectual stimulation too!

The Beach
The beach provides many chances for outdoor sex. If you are truly adventurous, you can make out under a beach blanket in view of thousands of people….but they don’t know what’s going on, right? For a little more privacy, try wading into the ocean. You get more seclusion the deeper you go. Just make sure that you come out with your swimsuits, though!

Rooftops and Balconies
Rooftops are really fun. You get a view of the city or at least the surrounding area! If you have a balcony, that could be fun too, with the moon shining down on you! If you hear some late night visitors coming, run indoors!

At the Theatre
Remember that while necking in the theatre or movie hall is reasonably easy, theatre sex may not be so. You’ll have to ask the man in the ticket booth as to which is the least popular movie and buy tickets in the last row.

Well, once you’ve started on your sexual sojourns, we guarantee, there will be no looking back and no more boredom. So, get going and enjoy…..

Sealed with a Kiss

What is a kiss if it is said? A secret told to the mouth instead of the ear… A kiss is as some poets describe, a bouquet of flowers that attracts the bees, amber warmed by the hand of a girl, the perfume of fruits mellowing in their winter buds…yes all of these is a kiss. Coleridge called a kiss, "nectar breathing." Shakespeare says that a kiss is a "seal of love." Others have said that a kiss is: the balm of love; the first and last of joys; the seal of bliss; love's tribute; the melting sip; the nectar of Venus; the language of love. But the fact remains… a kiss has remained; ever since Adam turned and saw Eve lying next to him… ever since the 17th century Prince Charming kissed Sleeping Beauty and woke her from her deep slumber… ever since John Rice kissed May Irwin for the first time onscreen in 1896… and ever since our own Mallika Sherawat openly declared that kissing makes her skin glow, so she loves kissing her co-stars.A kiss has remained… as an expression of love, a tribute to love and an introduction to love… a kiss that is implanted on the ring of the Pope, a kiss which a mother plants on her child’s forehead, a kiss when lovers meet or a kiss when its time to say good bye… a kiss remains through joy, happiness, passion and through tears.If eyes are the portals to the soul, then lips are the corridors to the mind. We react to thoughts with a smile, express love with words and intentions with a kiss… Intention that is friendly when you kiss someone on the cheek or of admiration when you kiss on their hand. A desire that is shown by kissing on the neck or ears. And of course the kiss, which the special someone gives you on your lips and whispers ‘I love you’.A kiss speaks your mind and the truth in your thoughts. It signifies a special gesture. Like the virgin kiss, which is like a wish… a dream? The friendly “I really like you” cheek kiss or the naughty “I want you” ear kiss. It is said that love dictates but a kiss writes the secrets of the heart. It is the passion in a kiss that gives to it its sweetness but the affection in it sanctifies it. Where the shoulder kiss and forehead kiss brings comforts and security to someone, the eye kiss to your sleeping partner shows your deep love and affection. The seductive finger kiss speaks of your desire, so does the “I want you” neck kiss when you gently nibble up and down your partner’s neck. The foot kiss can be highly erotic just like the passionate French kiss where lovers kiss through tongues. Surprisingly enough, the French calls it the English kiss. And of course for lovers far apart, the virtual kiss comes handy over the internet.Incase you want to get a little more romantic there can be a dancing kiss when you suddenly grab your partner in your arm, play romantic music, switch to a little dance and then gently start kissing. Or the trickle kiss when you take a sip of your favorite drink and trickle it slowly into your partner’s mouth while kissing. And of course the romantic teaser kiss where you start with a loving kiss on the forehead followed by a sweet short kiss on lips moving up and down the arm and further kissing on the lips till it becomes really passionate. For the shy lovers who yet cannot approach their love, wait till the Christmas season because it brings the mistletoe custom. And the custom says that if a woman is caught standing under the sprig of mistletoe, any man has the right to kiss her, without asking her permission or begging her pardon. This is one time when social convention doses its eyes to lover's delights. For then, you can seize hold of your girl and smack her to your heart's content without being socially scorned for it. Apart from the mistletoe custom, many other interesting customs and kissing legends exists. Tradition has it that any woman, who kisses the armor-clad statue of the 16th century Italian soldier Guidarello Guidarelli, would marry and settle down with a wonderful gentleman. It is estimated that over 5 million woman have done so. In Ireland, it is believed that any person who kisses the Blarney Stone, situated in the 15th century Blarney Castle in Cork, is said to be endowed with good fortune and the gift of eloquence. In Germany, it has been observed that those who kiss their spouse each morning earn 20 to 30 percent more income and live approximately five times longer. Since a morning kiss begins their day with a positive attitude. But as they say, love can also be dangerous sometime. Social Practices in Indiana makes it illegal for a mustached man to "habitually kiss human beings". An amazing fact is that in Hartford, Connecticut it's illegal for a husband to kiss his wife on Sunday, and in Cedar Rapids, Iowa, it's a crime to kiss a stranger. Who ever thought this sweet expression of love could be so grave.For those who do not approve of this romantic gesture must know that kissing has some health benefits too. Reports have revealed that a one minute kiss burns 26 calories. While kissing, your heart is pumping, your pulse is racing and it becomes a great cardio-vascular workout. So next time when you plan to hit the gym, why not opt for the easier way. Kissing is great stress buster; it gives you a good-all-over feeling until and unless your partner has bad breath. Women compare it to melting butter or a splash of wave. Men describe it as vibrations at a concert. But what is the physiology behind the warm and fuzzy feelings that accompany a good kiss? It's all about dopamine, neurotransmitters, pleasure receptors and the like. If you are still varying between the kiss-me and kiss-me-not hubbub, understand the ardor of a kiss, think of the benefits otherwise and go on.So whether the kiss seals a betrothal, signifies respect and admiration or comforts a tearful eye, the fact remains that a kiss is a promise of a heart full of love and tenderness.

One kind kiss before we part,

Drop a tear and bid adieu;

Though we sever, my fond heart;

Till we meet shall pant for you.~ Robert Dodsley

Be a Good Kisser

DO gently caress your partner's face.

DON'T octopus your hands all over their body.

DO use your tongue to stimulate.

DON'T use your tongue like a jackhammer.

DO notice how your partner reacts to your kisses.

DON'T notice how cute the guy at the next table is.

DO communicate with your partner.

DON'T communicate the kiss to everyone in the locker room.

DO chew a gum before you kiss.

DON’T kill him with your bad breath.

DO say something sweet now and then while kissing.

DON’T keep blabbering non-stop in the moment of passion.